Michele, hi, I'd posted under a new heading, sorry.
I've posted on newcomers and received a lot of help. The situation in a nutshell. Married 7 yrs Me 32yrs WAW 34yrs D 4.5yrs UK military (WAW ex military) Separated 2.5yrs ago for 4 months (Me at military college + financial problems) Separated now 1 month - reason from WAW - we've grown apart, how can I be the way I am, if I loved her...
I am more convinced it is the end by...
WAW not caring if I saw someone else (I'm not doing so/we haven't ever) WAW 'clearing house' pictures, memetos, pets (out dog goes in the am) WAW not willing for C WAW convinced it is all over (appears to have even got over the emotion of it)
We were happy a few months ago, new place, new job (no financial worries) etc. D started school, W worked with horses, then it was all over. She said we'd reached this point before, not only separation, but the long talks which we didn't put into practice. Now she feels there is no way forward, at all. I moved out (1 mth ago) and she has got on with her life, busy etc. She seems happy with it all and her biggest concern is my R with my D. Do I just let her go, going dark etc mightn't work as then she'd feel D was being 'punished' by me.
I really do feel it is over, any contradicting evidence out there to assist me. Have read the threads (all of them I think). Do I carry on doing.......something or just throw in the towel, as WAW has done (i feel). She has just 'given up', no fight, no sadness, no arguing, just end.
Thanks for any guidance - I fear that the further down the road she goes the less she'll look back. I said to her that I didn't want her thinking What If in 6/12/18 mths. She said, quite rightly, that was her problem.
At present I have no idea what to do. If lovingly detach is the way then it seems that will be the end.
