Quote: Do you lose desire when your H calls you a F'ing B? Absolutely! But is it the same when he disagrees on the color of paint you want for the living room? I know women who use the whole reward system to get things done around the house and it works for both partners. I think that's the key. I have also known people who have put thier partners in a "parent" position and then resent when they are treated like a child.
I wish the reward system worked. Then we'd both get something out of it! Whenever we had sex he would just get up and go fishing or something, meanwhile our house fell down around our ears...
Funny, my H had a go at me the other day for acting like his mother and I was like ' well, der, you won't think for yourself so I have to. Works for you most days though doesn't it?'. He didn't have anything else to say after that. At the moment he's actually washing his car for the first time in 6 months or more and I didn't have to tell him to do it. Well, I did say something about how dirty it was a couple of weeks ago, but that was it!
It can't come quickly enough
And now you've spent your life
Waiting for this moment
And when you finally saw it come
It passed you by and left you so defeated.
Scissor Sisters - 'It Can't Come Quickly Enough'
