Quote: "Your misbehaving so no dessert for you" kind of a thing. It's all in how it's done.
"How can you have your pudding, if you don't eat your meat?"
I think a large part of it is in the attitude. If it comes from a place of "I know that we're not having sex as often as you would like. I want to work on that with you. When you say mean things to me in anger, it makes it very hard for me to be close to you. I want to be close to you emotionally and sexually, are you willing to work on this with me?"
If it's more of a "You sorry SOB, you expect me to drop my drawers everytime you get a woody, but you treat me like sh!t all the time. No woman would ever want to have sex with you under these conditions!"
I think the reactions are going to be a wee bit different.
