I'm with you GEL. A person needs to set and keep some boundaries in a relationship. However, I have heard some of the men on this board refer to this as withholding or mothering (no reward if you're misbehaving). Where is the line in regards to that? Do you think they really don't get it that when a woman feels disrespected, she is not going to be able to ML? At least in a way that is satisfying for her...and possibly him. I know for me in that situation, I was doing it for the sake of the relationship but I felt pretty resentful that he could treat me like crap and still expect me to treat him in a loving way.

Bear

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