Perhaps 'punish' was not the best choice of words. I was actually thinking of how CeMar's wife would put up with him (for so long) if he carries on at home the way he does here. In his posts he bitches and moans (like a child) and pretty much lays all the blame on his wife and it just annoys me intensely. Sorry.

No worries. Cemar keeps doing the same thing, I wont say whines like a child, but its not attractive masculinity, and even though we know what 'proper' communication is, eventually he gets what he has always gotten. (thats directed to burgbud, or resident 'comunication etiquitte' moderator. -love ya man. )

So now that I believe you are a female... lol, back to my original question to you.

Whats got you in a power struggle with your H, why do you disrespect him, and what issues are you so resentful about?

How are you going to start communicating this to him with Radical Honesty?
Would this be a 180 from your usuall P/A?

Untill you can control your perspective, and feel like you have a voice, your desire is not going to come back.

You want things to be better or you wouldnt be here.
So what are you going to do about it?