Thank you for DR. I'm not blind to the fact that not all marriages work out, but this book has given me a hope & outlook I absolutely did not have before.
I wish I would have bought this book when this whole situation started. I guess I was one of those people who thought this was just a phase & I kind of feel like this (excuse my language) hell I'm living through crept up on us so quickly.
I've always been a soft spoken person whose not complained about H going with his buddies and my H does a lot of what he wants to do. I've often stayed home and been where he knows I'm going to be and doing what he knows what I'm going to be doing. I use to have more control over our finances, but since our situation started, my H has been spending more money & spending more time with OW. I have tried getting mad, but that just makes him push away even further and makes him cold when I bring up the OW or the questions of "what, where, when, with who...etc."
I've always been a pretty affectionate person, but I'm trying to get out of that REALLY desperate, needy, clingy mode I've been in since this whole situation started. I guess I'm trying not to let him feed off of any anger I may have about this situation. I'm trying to do more for me and be a happier person again. Even though he is still insistent about going out of town to where I know he is seeing OW, he seems to be showing more of an interest in me and how and what I'm doing.
Does it sound like I'm on the right path? I hope so.
I'm in your area, so I'd love to see you or Arnold some time.
