my libido dropped after the 2nd child, but I still wanted to feel close to H, and so, I don't get how you can just continue to deny him. I really feel it's wrong of you.
I haven't always denied him. There have been plenty of times I had sex with him to keep him happy even though I wasn't into it. This ended up doing more harm than good as I ended up resenting him. It felt like it really was just about sex and not ML.
Quote: You are playing with fire by telling him to look elsewhere. And if he leaves you, who will you see as the victim? You are leaving him, by saying no all the time.
If my H does leave me over this issue, I will not see myself as the victim. I'm know it would be hard if he left, but I am capable of living life without him. Not that I want to.
I wouldn't know if my H is any good in bed. He's the only man I've ever been with.
It can't come quickly enough
And now you've spent your life
Waiting for this moment
And when you finally saw it come
It passed you by and left you so defeated.
Scissor Sisters - 'It Can't Come Quickly Enough'
