my libido dropped after the 2nd child, but I still wanted to feel close to H, and so, I don't get how you can just continue to deny him. I really feel it's wrong of you.
Women want to feel close before they can ML. Men want to ML in order to feel close....My brother had this problem with his Now ex-wife , and they had a Mexican stand off. When my brother tried to romance her, she said she felt manipulated. He couldn't win.
I think it's easier for us, as women, to make the move rather than assuming your H should. At least give your H some route or way he can reach you. And don't look at ml as just having one goal; 'cuz it is NOT alll about an orgasm, it's intimacy....that's why they call it Making Love, not making sex.
You are playing with fire by telling him to look elsewhere. And if he leaves you, who will you see as the victim? You are leaving him, by saying no all the time.
Last, my libido came back and is quite fine now thank you. Yeah it took a couple years, but I suspected It was hormonal. I think it is for you in all likelihood, and you should get yourself checked out.....and after ML I have NEVER wished I'd done laundry instead. Is your H good to you in bed? If so, please listen to what we are all saying. I feel like I'm hearing alarm bells going off all over the place... Good luck.
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
