I say pick up a copy of Dr. Laura’s “The Care and Feeding of Husbands.” Have sex with your H and cool down that problem or there will be an explosion that may be irreparable. Assuming you have seen qualified doctors who have correctly diagnose that there is no biological problem, then maybe there are psychological issues. Get into counseling.
Also, if you’ve read Schnarch, recall the example of that one angry woman who was upset with her H for always pressing for sex? She made it out to be a problem with him, always bothering her, keeping the spotlight on her, and the cure to their marriage problems was for him to back off. Schnarch made it clear that her avoidance of the issue was what kept him putting the focus on her. She would not move forward so he was stuck. A husband’s need for sex is not unreasonable. Withholding is unreasonable. My W did the same to me last year. It was not a good scene.
What could be going on within you that turns you off to sex?
