I have been with my husband for almost 15 years (we are both 34), we have 2 kids, the youngest is 3 yo.
My libido has been pretty much non-existent for the past 5 years. I have tried herbal remedies, seeing doctors and counsellors to no avail. I am not on any birth control or other medications either.The desire to ML is just not there and if we ever do have sex I find that I would rather be doing something else, like the laundry. It's probably 3 months or more since we last had sex and my H is going crazy. I am going crazy because he is going crazy!
He tried to initiate this morning, at 5am, after I'd been up since 2am unable to sleep. I was tired and not in the mood but he pulled me over to his side of the bed and started touching me and kissing me. I made it obvious that I wasn't interested (eg. moving my head away when he tried to kiss me), but he kept at it until I eventually turned away. He got up, banged and crashed around with the shits while getting ready for work, then came in and forcibly rolled me over and kissed me 'goodbye'. Now I want sex even less. When I got up I noticed on my 'Things to do list' he has added 'have sex with my husband'.
This is a typical situation that goes on in our marriage, and I'm sick to death of it. I have read Michele's SSM & Schnarch's Passionate Marriage books (he hasn't - finds other things to do), but they haven't helped much.
I know he shouldn't be denied sex so I'm at the stage where I am going to tell him to find someone else to have sex with. I know that will have the risk of an EA, but at the moment I really don't care. At least he would be leaving me alone.
I am dreading his return from work in a few hours.
Your opinions would be appreciated.
It can't come quickly enough
And now you've spent your life
Waiting for this moment
And when you finally saw it come
It passed you by and left you so defeated.
Scissor Sisters - 'It Can't Come Quickly Enough'
