Hi Michele. You answered a question for me on the last thread and I never go around to thanking you so this is a belated but heartfelt thank-you. [I asked if my 180 could be love/attention since my being cool, angry, distant had createe some of the problems. You said you weren't sure but try & see...it didn't work (pursuing behavior) but I feel better knowing I tried.] I'm re-reading DR and I'm very thankful to have it. I was also able to recommend it to a friend who was in the begging/pleading mode. ________________________________________ I have one more question. H has been gone 3 weeks; I've seen him 2x--I initiated but did not engage in ANY pursuit behavior during our time together. I've now gone to the dark, LRT phase (as a result of H not contacting me when he said he would). H HATES confrontation more than anyone I know. Can LRT still be effective with someone who avoids all confrontation??? (I'm afraid he'll just be relieved & wait me out.) Thanks again, Aly
