Unfortunately, (pre-DB), I made many of those mistakes you mentioned. I am now trying not to pressure him or constantly talk about his depression.
As for contact, this past week alone we have talked 3x. 1x for returning my call and the other 2 his own initiation. Each time, we talk for awhile. We have talked about us only after he initiates it.
He is not sure what he wants to do about OR at this point. From listening to him, it mostly sounds like fear holding him back. Fear of not being able to handle being married, fear of hurting me again. He has a history of second guessing all his decisions and focuses on the negative.
I'll try and see if there is something about OR that is holding him back. I'm not sure what he'll say, but I have a feeling it will be that it is all him.
Thanks, Kathy
For in the end we will conserve only what we love. We will love only what we understand. We will understand only what we are taught. - B. Dioum
