I know it is hard, and feels unnatural to stop yourself from saying ILY or touching your H. I also almost cut the time my kids would spend on Thanksgiving with MIL, but I realized I'd only hurt them, so nashing my teeth I took them, and it was ok. My behavior, as well as your gentle behavior, let to diffuse tension and hate and we were able to talk to each othere, it is a start. It took us about 7mth until he hit rock bottom and came home.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
