I finished Divorce Remedy yesterday. It was full of great information, especially the part about MLC. We've been separated for 6 months now, in the same house, separate bedrooms, his choosing. I've tried everything...180's, LRT, even got him to go to Retrouvaille, but he didn't like it and wanted to leave early. 11years married, 2 kids, and he filed for divorce the same week he announced he wanted out.
We've ridden it out over 6 months (he refuses counseling, we went once before). I'm taking care of myself in a ton of great ways...spirituality, work, children. Now it's getting down to the wire...he wants to put the house up for sale in 2 weeks and the divorce will be final when it sells. We've got good agreements on the children and the money... I refuse to fight.
I'm still trying to divorce bust. My recent 180 is to not challenge him about the divorce at all. I loved the story in your book about Carol....it felt SO MUCH like our situation except that the divorce wasn't already started. Most of the same complaints.
Now today, ironically, I've found evidence there is another woman. I'm pretty sure it's new, the last month or so. He's been laying out his work folder on the counter a lot, as if he's hinting at me to go through it. I kept ignoring it. Finally today he left on an all day hike with his hiking group (supposedly) and it got the best of me, checked his drawer and his work bag...found a name and a phone number in a city 70 miles away. Because we're almost divorced he'll say this is OK.....I still feel hurt and enraged. I thought about calling the number and realized no good could be gained. I think I'm going to completely not mention it. It does make me wonder about the conference he's supposedly going to in that city later this week.
So that's more about me than the book really...I love all your encouragement. I wish so much I could get him to read it..he won't.
Do you have any thoughts for me? It's frustrating...I feel like I'm just getting it on DivorceBusting and here it is almost about to happen.
