My H used me in TV commercials for his dealership...oh, look at the blonde getting out of this car, look at her with her tennis outfit and racket standing by that car... it was really something, but I did it.
Before we got M, I had all the sexy lingerie, then after, he wanted me to throw them out - he didn't like me wearing black, or something low cut...I was property.
Thank God, we didn't have children - then he probably would see me as "mom" - asexual, housewife, no gender...oh well. We are D - his Ow is quite plain - maybe that's what he needed - I got over it.
It just amazes me how we all have these expectations of how our S's s/b - we need to let them be whomever "they" choose to be...but we don't.
