As obnoxious as "Jane's" comments were, I think there may have been some valuable meaning lost in it because of it's tone.
Maybe I'm wrong, but it sounded more of a call to arms against being a doormat. That principal applies to Men and Woman. Nobody wants to feel like a doormat.
Also, as far as "being a Man". There are attraction triggers in Woman the same as there are in Men. I can't speak for all Men, but the Feminine qualities of Woman were always the attraction triggers for me. The more feminine, the more attractive they are to me. Demi Moore is a knock out, but let's face it, G.I. Jane wasn't one of her more provocative roles. Same goes for Woman. There are attraction triggers in Man that Woman do admire regardless of them telling you they like the "sensitive, shy, agreeable" Robbie Benson types. I think a good majority of them are still attracted to assertive masculine Men who are not controlling, but willing to take the lead. Willing to stand up and defend if necessary their convictions. It's OK to stick up for yourself and you don't have to be a jerk or confrontational to do it. It may not give you the results your looking for, but at least you can face yourself in the mirror and know you acted out of conviction and respect for yourself.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
