Yes, there is an occasional softening happening, pleasant for a change. She is off printing again (for the show in Japan), so i have a bit of time to analyze and plan the next steps. Thank you for your thoughts and encouragement.
An important thing seems to be the kind and size of gestures - the flower cost nothing and was a surprise and nicely small - big stuff seems out of step now. I'd like to return the gesture in kind, but not via a flower, and with the same surprise value, not a material thing, something small, but meaningful. Don't know what this could be though.
The neck rub thing is I think too big. Physical contact, which there is none of just now, seems like the last frontier to me (plus she doesn't like massage), and a different way seems better. Any suggestions? Doing one of her chores, such as laundry, also seems wrong - intrusive - .
On the fun front, I had a "make use of what you have" idea. How about overnighting in his and her igloos, when the (right kind of) snow finally falls here? We spent a few weekends winter camping during our courtship long ago, a neat experience (darn cold, but more reason to snuggle... the blackness outside felt primitively threatening... great to wake at first light the next morning) - if this actually were to work (I've never built an igloo) then we could maybe even return with the kids the next weekend. Sweden is good for this kind of stuff (nearly all land is public, and you can camp on it if you don't hurt anything).
Can you think of small, not too material, love gestures?
Still weirdly warm (50) here - hundreds of fish were jumping in the local harbor yesterday at 7am, spreading rings of waves everywhere, never seen anything like it -
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
