<img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> I can't find my situation in the Divorce Remedy book. My H of 13+ years left just 3 months ago saying he was bored and needed some space. In three months he has moved in with OW, lied constantly, called me regularly, tells me he loves me and wants me to wait for him. Last week I found out that the OW is pregnant with my H's baby. He is 40 I am 53 I thought we had a good marriage. At first I thought it was MLC but now I have no idea. I'm beginning to think that God never meant for women to marry such younger men!
I moved 650 miles away to be with my 90 year old father to help him. I visit my 86 year old mother with Alzheimer's in the nursing home regularly. I've been helping with the care of my brother (64) who we just found out is dying of cancer.
My H always asks if I still love him. He asked tonight if I would consider raising his child if that could be worked out once the baby is born. He seems somewhat serious, he said tonight that I'm his soul mate in the Christian sort of covenant marriage sense. He had always said he didn't want kids and was really close with my youngest son.
Another odd thing about my H's behavior is that he couldn't understand and got angry because my brother doesn't want to see or talk to him. My family loved my husband and they have been crushed by this whole thing.
Anyway, I have grown a lot during the last 3 months and that is a good thing. I have been trying to learn to enjoy myself but the grief and sorrow are so hard to bear sometimes. I have been nice to H when he calls. Also, he has filed for a D and I should be getting some updated papers on that shortly. For a while he said he was going to stop the D but he hasn't and in my heart I feel that he won't.
My perspective is all messed up and I really do need help sorting through all of this. I haven't posted to this board in a month or so but I have been reading. I don't seem to find anyone in a similar situation. This feels pretty lonely.
Thanks,
Jodi
An Update:
Today God released me to let go of my husband because of the baby they will soon be having. This sweet child will have a hard enough time of it with it's parents. I won't be party to the deception that my husband is already involved in with his child's mother. I am sure she doesn't know that he calls me almost every day and has asked if I would consider raising this child with him.
He called tonight and I told him that it's over and not to call me any more. I told him I will sign the divorce papers he had sent to me and get them in the mail to the attorney. Now it is all in Gods capable hands.
Jodi
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