1. Do surprise her when she comes home; try to find out when she will return. 2. Nothing materialistic, it has to be a surprise from the heart. If she put flower petals on the bed before you got married, then try something similiar. Graphic artists are creative people (duh!!) - so you need to do something that will absolutely floor her. 3. Use candles, scents, mood lighting anything different you think would surprise her. 4. Cook dinner one night, have one of her friends get her out of the house - so you can do all this...
She is not ready for boundries yet...she's not at her 100% level yet (full M focus). Boundries, cut freedom.
You say you "let her" go on business trips? Isn't that her job to go? And you let her go? WOW NELLY...that is really a control tactic...WARNING...WARNING...WARNING. You are trying to own her...she's not property. She's human. Please give her some space...
You see, being strong is of character...not macho. She is creative, strong, bold and unafraid it seems. You sound like she needs to be roped and tied. She has made a mistake and she knows it...but she is waiting to see what you are going to do to change.
"NO CHANGE...EVERYTHING REMAINS THE SAME..."
Do NOT, do NOT bring up the A. She left you the clues, she knows you know...now - what are you going to do about it... C.. H..A..N..G..E..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She needs this...and don't go overboard....she'll she that you are desparate.
Sorry, but I cannot stress enough how "unimportant" the OM or in the other cases the OW is. To you it is so devastating, to us only an outlet due to unhappiness.
Give her space, and keep your faith...this is a wake-up call from God. Change must happen...now...in you.
If you give W an ultimatium while the M is shaky; you are pushing her away...she will go. TRUST ME...ACTION CAUSES REACTION...IT COULD BE GOOD OR IT COULD BE BAD..... YOUR CHOICE. Take the upper road...
Sorry, this is just my 2 cents... Good luck!!!!!!!
