Throw away the book you found in D's room. It is not appropriate for her to know about a mother's boyfriend.
THROW IT AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If wife comes home and asks where it is; calmly tell her it wasn't appropriate for D to read, or be read to her.
YOU ARE TOO, TOO, PREOCCUPIED WITH THE W AND OM.
I, TOO, CHEATED ON H....it had nothing to do with love or the sex......I did it b/c what lacked in my M: caring, peace, freedom and trust.
You need to focus on you and change you.......the hints were left for you to find...she needs excitement, mystery intrigue.
You say she needs you to be stronger? Fine, show her by sweeping her off her feet. Clean up the messy office. When she comes home, take her to a nice dinner, wine, candles, etc. Draw her a bubblebath with champagne and glasses nearby with candles in the bathroom.
Why???????Because you are too predictable...show her the loving man you are that she married. Show her she is important to you.......remember, show her.......do not talk about R, the OM, or any other topic she tunes you out with.
I am so sorry to tell you this in the manner that I have... but the OM is not the issue...your quality and way of M is the issue.
Do not confront her about the A. You take care of you... and the OM and A will magically disappear.
Yeah, she is cheating on you...but push her about it - the OM wins......think about it.
