I moved out of the master bedroom, my CPAP has an exhaust port that makes too much noise for BB, at least that is the surface issue. Bad attitude is also a word that floats around in my head.
We were invited out on thanksgiving to our usual, son-in-laws parents house but got the invitation through his W, our daughter. BB only wants to go if she is invited by SIL's mother so I told our d that if SIL's mother wants us to come, the only way BB would go is for SIL's mother to call BB and invite us.
The SIL's dad saw me last week and made sure I knew how to get to their new house. He builds one house at a time by himself, lives in it till the next one is finished then sells the occupied house. That is the reason for him telling me where he lives. That (the SIL's dad directions) wasn't good enough for BB.
Well, now according to BB, I force myself on other people, don't recognize when people are being polite when they really don't want to be involved with us. BB also feels I don't support her and our R is all about me. I am not buying much of what she had to say.
On Thanksgiving day, I am taking BB out to dinner and we are having out Thanksgiving dinner on Friday because one of our guests can't come till Friday. This dinner and guest and inviting protocol is a female thing I suppose.
Another subject: The church has a "Divorce Care" program and I went to. The session was about forgiveness and who gets hurt when a person carries the burden of hurt. Another counter subject was just because you forgive, you still need to have boundaries so some hurts don't continue.
Over half of the participants are married to varying degrees, but separated. Everyone told a short version of their story and a problem they wanted to work on or a current issue.
The leader was married 12 years, divorced several years, and remarried for 17 years.
If she were to take out some of the praying and religious/spiritual element of the "Divorce Care" program, the program would be similar to our forum and other forums and book readings.
The small group leader asked me if I was interested in completing the trainers program. It sounds like it would be right up my alley but the program is heavily into praying about things. I am not sure I could promote the whole program as it is written, and books written and sold by the www.divorcecare.org company.
I didn't tell BB I went to the church meeting, I said I went to a "Meyers-Briggs, Understanding Personalities and Relationship" seminar, but I did tell her some of the general themes that were discussed, people problems and personalities.
I have minimal reactions to the latest bumps in the road. It's back to work for me.
