Michele, I have a question about when to use the LRT. H moved out 3 months ago. Basically an explosive collision of long-term sexual problems (mine), MLC (his), and major depression (mine). Since we are living apart, by definition according to DR I should LRT. I've stopped talking about R, I've stopped trying to remind him of good times, stopped the presents, stopped telling him I miss him and love him. However, he wants to be "best friends" and seems to be pretty agreeable to my asking for dates (of course, I'm not calling them dates, just "hanging out"). He also seems to enjoy email banter, as long as I keep it light and non-serious. There is no OW, he says he is not looking yet (YET!),and up to two weeks ago we still had an intimate relationship (then he decided it would "ruin" being friends); he still wants to hug and kiss, but nothing beyond that. So do I try a "modified" LRT, or should I go dark and stop all communication and suggesting dates?
