smileysmile, here is my update. W and I are as close emotionally as ever. We broke this coldness. It took solid 3 month of a better communication, a lot of self search for both of us, a lot of changes on my part, but we are back. We still need to do a lot a lot of work, we still see a C, but we are back. Physical closensess followed emotional part, and our lovemaking is better than ever. While I am a happy camper these days, I still spend whole a lot of energy on trying understand how stupid had I been to cause this marriage to be almost over, and how we both will never let it to happen again.