I see myself in BB. Yesterday as part of GAL, I had lunch with an old neighbor. Well they moved and we had some tree seedlings that I offered. They were happy to get them. I told H and said well atleast they wont grow up thru the fence.
TODAY he's digging out the neighbors seedlings. I left the delivery way open and got the idea that we'd talk again and arange the entire thing. But....I gave him an out and said, "well atleast the ground isn't frozen yet".
I tried to dance around the situation that I have asked for a particular tree to be moved for 2 years. He said, "Well, I bet your going to say what about me?" "Nah, I did think about it but since you're digging I'm looking forward to the tree on flat being moved too." "What tree?" "The one you put the ribbon on. (gets coat) Want me to show you?" "No, I'm not going that way" "OK...let me know when you want me to show you"
I do feel strange that the neighbors were done and not mine for the second year.
Had a discussion about me wanting him to take inititive, which he did and then me being angered about what he chose to do. I guess I'll end up being happy with what ever I get cuz its a loosing senario to discuss the merrits of what just happened/didn't happen.
PS Pitcher water would have been fine. I've often thought of sitting at a bar and having H complain to me about the nagging wife at home. From his POV it would be hard to argue that he was not being put upon. From my POV he's trying so hard and doing so much, but the neighbors trees were no where on 'today's' list.
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
