i agree. BB sees it as she gets ignored, reads into situations that other people come first (In my opinion the problem stems from her low self esteem, feeling like the little dog in a big dog world)
Quote: is it my responsibility to read your mind.
That is where the problem started. I set out on what I see as needing to be done, which at the time didn't include filing vessel #3. BB automatically saw it as her being last and getting what was left, it anything was left and maybe she wasn't going to get anything at all.
Well there is tap water which we drank for 25 years before we had RO filtered water. I blame part of the problem on TV advertisements; creating a demand for products. Our well water tastes fine, much better than city water which we don't have and can't get.
Quote: Every time you stand up to her, she respects it and responds favorably..
I see this. I am trying to balance respect for her wishes, my tendency to do things in a minimal way, which see sees as being cheap, stingy, or as not considering her different style of wants.
I think little gestures work with other people, and with her, because they do with me. That is why I said maybe my carrots are too small.
So far, most of the MC's ideas are not too far off from some of the Deida ideas. So, yes standing up for what I want works.
