Your earlier advice was to give H unexpected hugs now and then. It seems to have worked.
However, H is really unhappy with himself he's 52 and has accomplished little in the way of career. Financially we're not doing well -- I took a lower paid position so I could be close to home and see my kids. The job has retirement and benefits. (H doesn't have these). Our children are 15, 12 and 8.
H is really confused and forgetful.
I have to schedule everything. He never suggests anything for us to do. He still acts like we can't get along -- I think it's five years since he said he wanted a divorce. We still live together -- since I decided not to try to make more money to accomodate his desire for a divorce.
