Quote: It was that he was willing to throw away what he had espoused as his "life's purpose"
I am giving up working, doing the retirement thing so I see where I lost some of my direction. Working is one of my ways I feel driven, something like a purpose.
Quote: You are much less prone to bend yourself out of shape to please her test of the day, you have "led" her in the bedroom with some of the PBTS type interactions and you have stopped apologizing for every little thing.
Karen, changing that way has helped some parts of the R. I see where I need to have integrity and be responsible for my feelings. Deida's book is helping me and our R in some ways. I am not sure my "life's purpose" is something BB will see as something she wants or sees as valuable. I still hear too many comments about men being selfish or controlling. I still hear comments that resemble "not good enough."
Yes I tried PBTS. Right now, I don't even feel like continuing those activities. I didn't feel I had a partner that wanted much more than to have her back scratched, and was too tired to feel much of my efforts.
MC appointment #2. We each have to bring a list of complaints and wants.
I haven't started my list. I don't know if the list is to be exchanged or just thrown away and offered in something like prayer session, and ask for changes to be made.
I wish the MC sessions would use something I a sort of familiar with. What ever happens, time moves on.
