Quote: Is it annoying and selfish to "invite" your man to respond, to play, to interact?
No, it isn't Lil.
One way to describe a part of the problem I have in playing the game with BB is I think we are playing baseball and she eliminates or modifies some of the rules of the game, has a list of handicap options so I don't know what is expected, moving bases, moving targets to a minor degree. Then there is the throw Lou a few crumbs.
Quote: Instead of seeing BB as "testing" you in a childish way, look at as an invitation to see how you will interact with her.
Yes, Perception helps Lil.
Quote: And don't forget that sexuality can be very "childish"--
????Childish????? I think BB could play house with me if the the dogs were our pretend children, but playing childish in a sexual mode???? I wonder if that part is broken/worn out with in her.
The more time I invest in the repair the R, the less I expect in a romantic/sexual way. It is becoming more and more a R of responsibility to do the commitment thing and do the least amount of damage.
Quote: remember Transactional Analysis: Each person has within a Parent-Adult-Child. Sex happens when the children play together. Each person needs to be able to let the child out. That's why relating as a Parent to the other's Child (and vice versa) is the death of sexual desire.
I read the book a long time ago and just remember the basics.
Then there is the throw Lou a few crumbs.
