Re Lostgal Really thanks for being critical of me a couple days ago. Which post LG? I hope I came across as helpful, not condescending or judgmental.
Wow, New colors on the forum layout, or does my computer have a virus?
MC appointment #1: 1. Basic information exchanged;
2. Our biggest problems were given a once over.
3. MC has no formal psychology training. C promotes himself, not as a C, but a friend with biblical outlook on life. All his work is based on 5 years of study and many years of helping couples resolve differences using biblical principals and relationships models. I think he said he is working with 30 or 40 couples right now. He was an insurance salesman earning over $100K a year, had a near death experience several years ago and now works for the church, along with 5 other ministers.
From what I see and hear, the church does lots of non-religious work for the community.
4. We have to agree to use to use his marriage seminar booklet he wrote, which includes information from the Bible, "The "Five Love Languages", and other books with a biblical inspiration.
5. He told me that his requirements and my beliefs might not work for me because I told him I needed to see things work IRL before I can move forward.
BB said her beliefs coincide with his, but she didn't see the need for any man to be in charge of the R, that women sometimes had better sense and were entitled to get what they wanted, something like the control topic Cobra brought up and Corri responded to.
In summary, I was farther apart on his spiritual beliefs but more in line with how a R plays out while BB believes more in line with spiritual part, but isn't in agreement with how R's play out in the day to day world. Anyway, I am going to proceed with an open mind and also be aware of not doing some things that seem radical.
Back to work and painting windows for me. Sunny day, hence the window cleaning and some forgotten painting.
