Re Qoe100 I hope you find some peace for yourself. I am, strangely enough.
some of the concepts in Snarch's book "Resurrecting Sex" aren't about sex at all. They are more about finding your inner worth and strengths.
The book so far says it isn't about the other person and what they don't bring to the R as much as it is about the good with in you that needs to be developed.
It is a good book for mapping out problems and concentrating, not on the road blocks, but looking for ways around road blocks, for building new trails and improving the new trails, or finding new roads all together.