Thanks for the advice Bear. I just hope W is upbeat too, at least part of the time.
Now that the nursing is almost over, I have stated the intention to start date nights with the W. W is not too keen about it, but I think that once she gets out of the house (and away from the kids) for short times, she'll come to look foward to it. I have a feeling though that the first couple of date nights will be rife with worry about the kids.
The other odd side note to it all, is MIL has actually come to resent spending time with the kids to some degree. On the few occasions thus far that I have asked her and FIL to babysit, she grumbles about it (the attitude being I'm there all the time, why should I have to help even more). So I have resorted to finding other nearby relatives, which are not in short supply, to help. I canb somewhat understand it, she is not a young lady enymore, and even young women would get worn down by two toddler and an infant.
One of the other issues I am trying to figure out how to deal with is an uncle-in-law. He is a really nice guy, the "give you the shirt off his back" kind. But he has stated very clearly that he is "racist and proud of it." I am struggling with the desire to not let my children be influence by such hatred. But I guess I can't shelter them, they will be exposed to such things as they get older. I just need to make sure when they hear it, I am there to talk to them about it.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
