The main problem I have is that I work all day (leave about 7:30 or so in the morning and get home around 6:00 at night. Somedays I can leave later or get home earlier, but that is typical. W is a SAHM, and MIL doesn't have a job, so MIL is around my W all the time. She comes over nearly every afternoon, and some mornings. So there is the matter of sheer time. There is no way I can "head her off at the pass" so to speak, other than make general statements such as "I want to be involved in every decision about the house" which I have done. The problem is when my W approaches me with some idea at night and I can hear MIL's influence on her. Some of the ideas are good, but some are things that I thought we had already settled. Last night it was crown molding. I'm not a big fan of it, but MIL is, and thus W is. I just told the W last night we can do crown molding so long as SHE really wants it, and it is not just MIL talking through her. Of course, what I worry about is that she is not truly aware of how much influence MIL has with her.
Anyway, lots of other problems cropping up now, so feeling overwhelmed. Fortunately we are doing a family vacation thing, and I have made myself a promise that I am going to be upbeat and positive and just let any crap that floats my way just float by. Just have fun while I have the chance and deal with stuff later. Maybe not the best approach, but its what I gotta do.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
