Hi guys... Excuse me for jumping in quickly, as a gal , and asking if wife has no say in these boundaries? They are common boundaries, right? House...kids... MIL's not telling you what cologne you should wear.
Perhaps the boundaries should be discussed with W and together you set them up and enforce them?
The point is you guys are grown up. If you decide kids don't need pants and wife agrees, it doesn't matter what MIL says. Don't let it get to you. If wife agrees with MIL, then fine, she gets a say too. If you really want to make a big deal out of whether the kids wear pants or not, you can call a family meeting to decide whether or not to take MIL's advice. You and your W decide. Pick your battles... It's OK to take MILs advice sometimes.
About the redecorating, W should also be able to say, Mom, we're discussing it/we've discussed it. And that's that. There should be common boundaries you both are aware of.
Your wife is juggling between listening to her Mom's advice while still trying to have her mom respect you. It's not easy!! Trust me!
Pick your battles well... it's not easy being that near MIL!
May it be eternal while it lasts.
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, and asking if wife has no say in these boundaries? They are common boundaries, right? House...kids... MIL's not telling you what cologne you should wear.