I'm a little bit uncertain if I'm doing the LRT right, or if there's something else I can / should do. My story is posted in the "I NEED SUPPORT" forum and they are titled, "Looking for help / advice!!!" and "Looking for help / advice!!! (Part 2)".
Briefly, September 2001 H told me he didn't love me anymore. November 2001 (1 week after coming home from 2 week business trip) he told me he needed to leave for awhile, so he went to stay with a friend or his Mom. The 2nd week of December, H told me that he wanted to do an "official trial separation", (something he spoke of with our counsellor), because the "dating" and counselling we had been trying wasn't working for him, (wasn't getting the feelings / spark back). So, our contact reduced even more. The last I saw him was December 21. After that I didn't see or hear from him until I sent him a business like e-mail around 10Jan (also sent him an e-card for his b-day). I then followed up this week because he never got back to me. We then had a 20 minute phone conversation that seemed to go well. I was supposed to hear from him by today sometime so that we could set up a time to meet and go over bills and stuff. I haven't heard from him.
So, I've been doing the LRT, but alot of it has been imposed by him because he doesn't contact me.
What can / should I do by way of contact? Am I doing the LRT right by not calling him, (eventhough it was basically imposed by him?) He seemed happy / relieved when I called him Wednesday. By me not calling him, he wasn't contacting me...does that mean it wasn't working and I should try something new??
I don't know for sure where he's staying, I don't know where he was over the holidays, (and he has asked that we don't talk about it). How should I proceed with the LRT? Is this the right step for me?
