My wife is not angrier with me. Granted, she is still very sick, but I don't think this effected anything but the most positive feelings in her.

But I was afraid that it would give the impression that I approved of the status quo with us - her with OP, me sort of hanging on.

I will take her to the doctor today. I think she is in serious danger. But I can't (direcectly) blame the OP; he IS doing this, but only with her consent. She's the one who is confused and sickened by her indecision.

She's indicated she may call off his visit. I don't know what will happen. Right now, I'm off to accompany her to the doctor. Then we'll see what happens.

I'll probably be away from this for the next few days. Thanks everyone for your kind advice. I'll hear from you later.

Have a happy Thanksgiving.