Well, I don't know how much this is taking care of myself, but it might have something to do with keeping my cool:
After all of the above (she gets sick, says that she doesn't want to see me for a while, etc.), she calls sounding miserable and asks if I'll stop by on my way home.
Since I was concerned that she might need to go to the hospital, I agreed.
On the way home, I thought I might be being played. But how? If she's shifting moods that quickly, anything she's doing to manipulate me is minor compared to what she must be going through.
I arrived, knocked on the door, and was greeted by a very green-looking wife. She was completely washed out, could barely speak, and got nauseated every time she spoke or moved. I got her back into bed, made her some tea, and sat down with her.
After some time, the floodgates really opened. She began to shake and cry again, eventually asking "what went wrong with us," and things like that over and over. She didn't want me to leave her for a minute, so I sat in her bedroom for hours, or rested next to her in bed.
Her cell phone kept ringing (the OP), but she had set it to vibrate and didn't pick it up.
Finally, after hours, she said that she still felt bad. I offered to stop at the pharmacy to get her something for nausea. Then the phone rang again. She said she had to answer it, so I left for the medicine.
I don't know whether this was just being a doormat, or the decent thing to do.
When I got back, she was no better. We got some medicine into her, then I tried to get her to sleep again. She didn't want me to leave, so once again I sat up with her.
Finally, I just went to sleep.
Was I being decent and loving in taking care of her, but messing up from a DB standpoint? Remember, she had said yesterday that we should "take a break from each other."
I don't know.
I think doing positive things for myself is helping out someone I love. Is it?
