Well, now I'm in the situation of so many other people whose spouses are no-where to be seen. How do you DB when they aren't there to see it?
I didn't have this problem for the first six months or so of this whole thing. (My wife's affair has probably been going on since February or March, and she only told me she "had to leave me" in May.)
She wanted to be very close to me (having her cake and eating it too, as even the OP told her.), so moved within spitting distance.
And I've been trying all sorts of DB things during that time. So now, what's this? She goes to a priest, then a counseler, then finally waits until I see the same counseler, then the you-know-what hits the fan.
She "can't live this way". She "has to take care of herself." She is absolutely sure that I will be OK, and that maybe eventually I'll be her friend again.
According to her, I'm (or at least I was) the only person in the world she has.
I think the reason why she's so upset is that she is beginning to realize that her actions are making it very difficult for us to continue going on like this.
She even stated once (after she said that she has broken it off with the OP) that she wanted to do something that would make a definitive break with me and the marriage. Hence her little weekends with the OP. Now it looks like she's doing it again.
