We've gone to two (more or less) useless counselers already; the first saw no reason to ask why my wife said she had no hope, the second seemed more intent on figuring out why I was upset by the whole matter.
(I'm not saying these things to denigrate counselers in general, but I do suspect that many of them are hide-bound by their general prejudices about how things work in relationships.)
I'm steeling myself for more of the same with the coming meeting. Hoping for the best nonetheless.
Right now, I just keep wondering about what could ever allow my wife to get over the fear she has that a future life with me would be as bad as before. She really feels that it was destroying her.
I know that her feelings about me and the relationship are not going to change overnight. Yet I hope that in the midst of everything that is going on (OP involvement continuing, counseling, holidays coming up, etc.) my changes continue to be apparent.
