I was surprised too that my H agreed to a C session as soon as he left, the first one w/a pastor was a mess, he denied lots of things. The second one w/an actual licenced C even worse, she saw right through him, that he came just to "drop me" off and told me right off (the C) to accept he was gone, w/that he just left.
Anyways, eventually we did go back to another C who told us he did see hope for us and that we could work it out, a total 180 from the first one, and he did help some. I did dread when we had to go, but once there it was like getting the ooze out of a wound, the stuff has to come out for the wound to heal. Our C never let us point fingers nor say "but he/she does this, that", only led us to talk abour how we felt.
Though our current is the best, he had an actual plan and right off we felt much better when we left the office, granted, he was back home and had reach rock bottom.
Good luck, I do hope you guys make some progress.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.