Well, things are apparently not so cut and dried regarding the supposed break with the OP. My wife now admits that she is afraid of 'losing' him.
She's not hiding the fact that she continues to speak to him, and has stated that she doesn't want to feel like she is 'sneaking around.'
She also continues to express how fearful she is about trying to make things work with me.
From her standpoint, she gave me half her life, and the remaining half is all she has left. She doesn't want to gamble it on something she's not sure of.
That "not being sure" seems mostly to do with her perception of me.
She's noted how confused she is by my new (and better) behavior. By this, she mostly means my improved listening skills, but I also think that I've managed to get a handle on other things as well and it shows. She's wondering how long it will last.
All I can tell her is that I'm trying to do the things for her I failed to do in the past. I can't expect to "convince" her of my earnestness by words.
Other than that big hurdle, her relationship with my parents is horrendous. Basically, she never wants to speak to them again, and doesn't see how our marriage can work given her feelings in that regard.
I can imagine everyones's advice: "Give her time."
But she is obviously growing impatient with the status quo (and I think that both the OP and her "counselers" (priest, friends) are pushing her there).
Sometimes it seems as if I'm too late in my efforts.
