Skimmed your last post. You need to give W hope. It's okay to show her you are excited that she is chosing you instead of OP. Be patient about breaking contact with OP, it will take her a longer time than you think it should, so support her, and show her that you really do want her to be with you.
Word of caution though, don't let her push the reconcilliation and continue A with OP. It's okay to begin reconcilliation, just don't let her feel like her double life, making up with you while continuing A with OP, is okay. let her know you are willing to start with her, and that it will take her a while to get rid of OP, and that you are there to support her, but really don't want to hear every detail.
It took my wife several months after breaking it off with OM to purge gifts and things. It's something she needs to do on her own time, if you force it or do it for her, it's not her decision. Side story: I'm a frugal person by nature, and got into the habit of checking the garbage whenever W "cleaned up". She would throw away useful, and often important items that I really wanted to keep. I noticed she had thrown away a lot of unused bath oils and salts and took them out of the garbage can and left them in the garage, figuring I'd surprise W by drawing her a bath and using them some night. W noticed them in the garage and after a few days confided that OM had given them to her, and she understood they were unopened, but she wanted them out of the house. I didn't waste a minute and went straight to the garage and put them in the garbage can.
Be the person you want to be around W. If you want to be a happy, exciting guy, then act excited and happy about her wanting to reconcil. You will naturally keep a part of yourself protected for a long time, don't let that get in the way of W seeing the person you want her to see.
It's not all or nothing, otherwise you wouldn't be here. Keep walking the talk, and give W time to walk with you.
