There is a lot of good, descriptive stuff in your last post. A lot of it really echos my own R with my W, hence my recommendation to start with her LL. That and serious 180s, and then a lot of time.
Share as much of your revelations about how to improve your R as you can with W. Don't force feed her, but as you continue DBing, W will notice a difference. Be proactively open with her about what you've learned about how to have a better R.
W needs to grow as much as you do. You can't make her grow, but if you share what you are learning whenever you can, some of it might help her too.
In the meantime, keep positive, and keep patience.
