No problem. I think most all of us were taken by surprise by all this, and not just the affair or our spouse's unhappiness. The worst part is realizing YOUR part in all of it, especially when you think that all this time you were just trying to be helpful and loving but it was being seen as controlling and manipulative. It cuts deep. I know.
Take your time and start to process all this. I will be out of town until Sunday night so I wish you well the next few days.
