Need advice on OP visit! Crisis point?

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anything I do that is in any way critical of this AH (my own acronym ) comes off as being unsupportive of her.

Unsupportive of what?? her having a sugar daddy? well, heck, then unsupportive you should be! I would never enable my H and accept he needs OP to feel good.

My H also was working himself to the bone, no friends, 2 family members he alianated, he was alone on the mess HE made for himself. I too hurt to see him miserable and on the brink of the abyss, but at the time i could nothing, he had to come out of it on his own. Yes, I offered my support and was there to talk if he needed to, but I didnt' support any destructive behavior.

She put herself in this position, as bad as you feel for her you need to detach because she needs to hit rock bottom on her own THEN she will the truth. When my H was on his lowest point I could be saying the same thing over and over again to no avail, it didn't sink in, he had to come to his senses on his own.

She is doing what we call here "cake eating", detach detach and detach and ask yourself what YOU want and dont' settle for less.

GO OUR and get a life, do things you wished a while ago you could do, work out, join a karate class, something, ANYthing, you need to clear your mind, you need to work on yourself.