I would tell your W exactly what you told us... That you have no interest in meeting or talking to him in the least.
It's ridiculous for her to pressure you in this way. Just say no! Just say "hell no" if that's what your true sentiment is. Set your boundaries with her in this regard. Don't legitimize the A.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
