l have posted a message in support needed. lam in my 9mth of separation.l have gone dark numerous times and basically have run out of strategies.my h has an ow.she has just met the children.h knew it would greatly upset me. l did not ackowledge her.my question is this?is the ultimate going dark by moving interstate and leave him and his ow to themselves? our house is currently for sale.l feel there is no way he'll consider reconciliation.l want the message to him is that l am starting afresh in another state and it will show him that l am finally letting go.children visits will be difficult for him even though he only had supervised visits up until 2 days ago.he was still supervised by his parents because he lost his drivers license and his partying left him in state of no sleep still drunk or still stoned.he is now seeing a psychiatrist.his ow is supporting him finacially and buying his love and committment.he lost his job as well.l want the marriage to work and l feel so betrayed that he is doing the things l asked him to do while he was at home.l feel distance will allow him to really feel the loss of his family.l also want to be left to heal,somewhere where l wont be constantly bombarded with him and his ow.my last ditch effort,what do you think?
