Hi Everyone: I have a new and totally unexpected update: To set the story, 8 yrs ago, there was a certain brand name purse that a lot of the girls I work with had, and I wanted one so badly. That Christmas, my then husband got me one, or so I thought. After I opened it, oohed and aahed, the kids all started laughing. Come to find out it was a cheap knock off version, he had picked up. Of course the kids all knew, and were laughing at how excited I had gotten. To make a long story short, my feelings were hurt deeply that he "tricked" me but I never said anything, I just played along. During our divorce four years ago, for some reason that incident came up and I told him how foolish I felt being the "butt" of the little joke. Yesterday, my now ex, comes over to the house and presents me with a gift--It was the name brand purse I always wanted, and he apologized for that incident years ago! I was totally shocked and speechless- Of course I gave him a big hug, and tears came to my eyes!! We are going out to lunch the Thur prior to Christmas. After he left, I started feeling mixed emotion and questioning gift--does this gift mean he is starting to get feelings for me again, or is the gift the way for him to relieve guilt? As for update with he and OW--no wedding date is set, he says because the time is not right. They still have issues!As I have stated before, the counselor they went to was unable to help them solve all the issues, so they quit going at the counselors request. My goal now is to let him make the next move. I sent him brief email message thanking him for the gift, and said Looking forward to lunch. I will let him make the next contact. I don't know how to get his interest from being a friend to a more romantic interest in me, but have decided to give him a hug or some type of touch, if the situation presents itself, each time I see him. Does anyone else have any suggestions--I definitely do not want to get in the pursuer mode and scare him off!
