Just an update on my situation and a question at the end: With Nov 1 child support check, ex sent it inside a Halloween card, and I also recieved a Thanksgiving card on the intranet. This is the first cards I have received from ex in 5 years!! Baby steps!! Last week we did have minor relationship talk, about needs not met during marriage, etc.The two he stated that bothered him the most during latter years of marriage, were my mouth { I could be very grouchy}, and lack of cuddling! I have really tamed my mouth and we get along well in that respect, in fact he has often said he loves my personality and always has. However the cuddling surprized me--I know our sex life went down the drain when the marriage was also going down the drain, but he said it wasn't the lack of sex, it was the lack of cuddling, that sent him elsewhere! Here is my dilemma--how do I now meet this important need in his life? He is still with OW,and supposedly engaged, but I don't think he is as happy as he puts on. I say that because I don't think he would ask me out to lunch every few weeks or have sent me 2 cards in the past several weeks if he was totally devoted totheir relationship. I don't know what to do here.Does anyone, including Michelle, have any ideas how to put this into an obtainable goal? He has invited me out to lunch again the Thursday before Christmas!!
