Hi,SPL,I thought about a PI, but I am not sure I really want to know everything that is going on. What do you do to deflect his temper trantrums? What leads up to them? Does he take meds that can interfere with sexual performance? When does he blame you for his inability to orgasm? Immediately after or what? He is probably very embarrased by his sexual performance or lack thereof. I hope you will really get a lot out of DR, I think I am starting to. Please post more, these EA's are so difficult to deal with, aren't they? L
VC I just started a similar thread that you may want to read. We have many things alike. The EA is horrible!!!! It makes me question myself and I know that is wrong. What's worse -- is that i hold the OW to a standard for all women. What's up with them?????? I can forgive, not forget, if he can just find the brain and heart of the man I married. This stranger is sooo cold! Sound familiar?
Thanks, I just posted on there, it is always good to have more people to talk to about all this, I'll just go to yours and read and post, too. You never know when someone's insight into this stuff will enlighten you. L
Does anyone know how long it usually take from the start of an emotional affair to the end of it? Have you ever seen any of the letters and cards they have written to each other, swearing of their undying love, and how they will wait for years to be with them? Have you ever listened to any of the ow's messages to your H, where she is playing on his protective instincts, or sounding kind of needy, or manipulative? How do I play against that? I am doing all I can to show my H that I can meet his emotional needs as well as his physical needs, but I wonder if I should be doing more and if so, what? does anyone know what the end of the EA looks like? do H's admit it's over or do they pretend it never happened? Anybody with any insight into this, please reply. Thanks, L
