My husband also had (having) an emotional affair for about a year. He was getting more and more involved and finally I thought he was going to try to see her. I hired a detective and caught them. I told him then it was either her or me, and had an attorney draw divorce papers. After that, I found this website and read the Divorce Remedy book. I have had 2 consultations with Joanne, who is great, and next one scheduled for 2 weeks. I have tried most of the things in the book and some work. However, his temper tantrums, attempts to coerce and control me, his blaming me when he can't have an orgasm (the fact that he is hypertensive and diabetic and does not take care of himself does not enter into it for him), and his threats to leave are making me feel that I would be better off without him. I am going to give it as long as I can, but at least now I feel like I have done what I can do. If it does not work out for us, I will be able to get on with my life.
